Before the i do, there’s a lot to tell.
The beginning of the relationship, falling deeply in love, feeling butterflies in the stomach. A real fairy tale. Is this real love?
The initial feelings may cloud our minds and lead us to believe this relationship and this “love” is a marriage affair. Many of us get confused and believe we found our soul mate which, in some cases, is clearly not the case and proof of that is the high divorce rate.
This said, today we are going to talk about some important “issues”, some answers you need to have and discussions that have to be done before you commit yourself and your entire life in that relationship. You will never know everything about each other, you’ll learn a bit more everyday that you’ll have together but there is a special list of “items” that you really must be aware before the i do.
First of all, divorce is that word that mustn’t cross your mind during this process. A Marriage is “for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and health, to love and to cherish, until we are parted by death“. This will be your solemn vow. So you must be ready for this big (and happy) change in your life.
So, here it is:
- Go to marriage counselling – it may seem boring but, believe me, it is really important to do it before the big day!
- Spend time with his family.
- Do you kids? Does he? How will you raise them (religion, school, education..)
- Will religion be present in your life? How? And how often?
- Does he really know you? Can you be yourself partying or is there a “you” he doesn’t know?
- Talk about what bothers you in him and vice-versa.
- Do you thing of somebody else? Is that often?.
- Talk, talk about everything. Always.
- Have a special day every month just for the two of you.
So, check this list and talk about it with our love, discuss every item. Improve the things that need to be improved.
If you truly can’t imagine your life without your babylove, then believe in it with ALL your strength. Keep in mind that there will be fights, there will be days where the last thing you’ll want is to see him. But you made a vow. And a marriage is worth fighting for. For ever and EVER!